The problems with the dialogue boxes are resolvable.
Updating the drivers will resolve the DVD-Max issue.
Regarding the windows popping up in the middle, you can use the "Center Dialogue Box" feature that helps you control that in the drivers.
If a hardware upgrade is being considered, the Matrox Parhelia line would be a good thing to consider.
ESRI applications have been certified for this line.
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